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October 23, 2007

Compartmentalizing.

I started this blog to ramble on about stuff, primarily focused on my hearing and vision and how they impact my life. I managed to plan a Big Fat Wedding without filling this space with flowers and tulle, and I got through pregnancy without blathering excessively about the gory (or mundane) details. But since I became a Mom (yes, with a capital M), it seems that this blog has become Mostly Milo, Most of the Time.

I know some (perhaps even many) of you want the baby news, but I'd like to continue to devote this space to the assorted thoughts that run through my head and need a place to escape, as I have time to get them into print. I don't particularly want blind insight to turn into another Mommy Blog. Thus, I present to you: The Milo Blog.

Enjoy!

November 24, 2006

Happy birthday to me!

I tried to make a list of some important lessons and experiences from the year I was 35. Then I tried to make a list of the things I am looking forward to for 36. Unfortunately, most of them involve subjects I have deemed officially Off Limits for blogging. Perhaps, as the year unfolds, I'll be able to bend that rule a bit.

November 19, 2006

I'm sorry.

Really, I am. I've been busy and distracted, and have had dozens of posts rumbling around in my head that I simply haven't had the brain power, time, or energy to compose and post. I had hoped to report that my blogging slackitude was the result of my dedication to cranking out a novel, but I gave up on my NaNoWriMo efforts about 8,000 words in, when a combination of factors converged to leave me too tired and unmotivated to write for fun, after hours.

However, as penance for my neglect, and in honor of my 36th (yikes!) birthday next week, I'm going to write a whole bunch of posts RIGHT NOW, and set them so that you get a new one each of the next seven days. Perhaps this will jump-start my blogging engine.

March 17, 2006

Spring forward!

A long week draws to a close, at last. Once again, I have been mostly desk-bound, cranking out yet another brief, to meet yet another deadline, so that I can turn to the next brief, in time for the next deadline. But I'm really not whining - I love having so many different appeals, raising so many different issues. This latest one involves particularly fascinating issues, with all kinds of nifty legal twists and potentially significant policy implications. What can I say - I'm an appellate nerd.

While I've been preoccupied with all this work, assorted other developments and happenings have been percolating in the background.

Somehow, it's March already, which, in addition to college basketball (my #^$*@)!*">#^$*@)!*% brackets are already busted), means that triathlon season is upon us! We will be attending a wedding over Boulder Peak weekend this year, so I won't be able to vindicate my abysmal '05 performance. But I will be doing three, possibly four sprints: 5430 Sprint in June (with many of my longtime tri buddies), the New England Danskin in July (with a whole posse of my beloved imaginary internet friends), Tri for the Cure in August (with the fabulous Michelle), and probably Louisville at the end of August (in which I placed 3d in my age group last year, more a testament to the caliber of the field than my own talents, and which Steve will do with me because he can survive the swim by running on the bottom of the pool). I've finally started swimming again, and it's just about light enough out in the mornings for me to get a regular weekday running schedule going. I've been spending lots of time on the bike trainer Steve got me for Hanukkah; hopefully this will pay off when I take my bike outside again soon.

The arrival of longer days and warmer weather also has me itching to climb outside, though the next couple of weekends will be more about backcountry skiing. I've lost some upper-body strength over the past two seasons, but I'm climbing more aggressively these days, and challenging myself with harder leads. Steve and I have been mulling a one-week return trip to Sardinia to celebrate our first anniversary, but we haven't decided yet whether we can (or should) afford it. If we go, we want to be climbing well enough to make a serious go of the Aguglia.

What I am not looking forward to this Spring is the rediscovery of our outdoor spaces. We have an embarrassing number of leaf bags strewn about the side and back of our house, because we missed the final drop-off day in the fall and can't fit them all in the Civic. They must be disposed of, and soon, because they're an eyesore (and we really don't need to be competing with our Very Scary Neighbor for the Toedtli Drive Eyesore Award). We also need to see whether any of the plants we stuck in the ground last year are still alive. We will cross our fingers and hope that our beloved apple tree will blossom this year, after it failed to bear a single piece of fruit last summer. We must tear out the three useless beds in the back yard and build something attractive and efficient in which to plant some sort of vegetable and herb garden. And we need to think about building a deck, or otherwise making our outdoor area more conducive to everyday use. Neither of us is blessed with a terribly green thumb or a huge passion for gardening, but we're making a valiant effort at developing both.

Also, this Spring may, possibly, I think, be the season of my CI surgery. It is hard to say for sure, though, because the clinic keeps postponing my next appointment (it is now on April 24) and the person who supposedly can give me a tentative surgery date ignores my phone messages. If I didn't have a close friend who has survived the administrative incompetence and is doing phenomenally well with the implant, I'd be tempted to bag the whole idea at this point. But the more I think about it, the more excited I am about having the implant, so I'm going to try not to let these annoyances dissuade me.

March 05, 2006

Whine, whine, whine.

I smashed my head on the just-below-my-field-of-vision overhead bins in the teeny plane. Twice.

I tried to work on the plane and couldn't keep my eyes open for more than 10 minutes. My head kept bouncing around as I dozed, and now my neck hurts.

I had to wait for half an hour for the free shuttle from my hotel, because my boss won't pay for a cab if there's a free option.

The restaurant in the hotel was, inexplicably (even to the guy who checked me in) closed. The only place that would deliver to my room on a Sunday night was Pizza Hut. I had to order $8.00 worth of food in order for them to deliver. So in addition to the pizza, I ordered a dinner salad and some cinnamon sticks.

The pizza took 90 minutes to get to me. Which meant that it arrived at 9:30 p.m. And the salad? Was a Fresh Express bag of greens and dressing. And the guy didn't bring me a friggin' fork, or a bowl. Of course the hotel didn't have a fork or bowl, either. Because the restaurant is, inexplicably, closed.

The pizza was doughy and greasy. The cinnamon sticks were cloyingly sweet. I really needed some protein and some vegetables. I feel sort of sick.

My room is extremely dark, and I have walked into the corner of the TV armoire three times already. The bathroom is tiny, and the closet is basically IN the bathroom. Weird.

The computer desk doesn't have enough outlets for both my computer and my cell phone charger. It's also too high for me to write comfortably on my laptop. The desk lighting is awful, and it's going to be very, very challenging for me to get much work done in this room. On the plus side, the room does have free high-speed wireless internet.

The TV reception is a little fuzzy. The TV doesn't pull out from the armoire, so it's too far away from the bed or chair for me to see very well. And it doesn't have captions.

I'm standing in front of the mirror, practicing my arguments, and I sound like a dork. My facial expressions look weird, too. And I still don't feel ready to argue tomorrow's case.

I'm really nervous that the audio accommodations in the courtrooms won't work.

This is going to be a long week.

February 21, 2006

I'm fine, thanks. How have you been?

I have decided that this blog (and, by extension, those of you who read it) is like an old college buddy. The kind of friend with whom you can lose touch for months, even years at a time, meet up for a beer in an airport lounge when one of you is passing through the other’s town, and resume chatting as though not a day has passed since last you met. So, yeah, I’ve been busy. With work, and houseguests, and work, and skate-skiing, and work, and climbing, and work, and taxes, and, well, work.

Steve and I are spending a lot of time these days fantasizing about knocking down walls and remodeling our tiny, boring kitchen into something less tiny and more fabulous. For financial and other reasons, I expect we are a year or so away from taking a sledgehammer to the drywall, but we have come up with a pretty snazzy design concept and have priced out some materials and appliances. At least in theory, we’d like to do as much of the work as possibly ourselves (realistically, mostly Steve’s-self, since I’m rather lacking in the construction- and design-skills department. But I can paint!). This should be a challenging and possibly even fun endeavor, although I’m a wee bit terrified about how long it might take, and how we might survive being kitchenless for many months.

Other than work and kitchen-dreaming, we have been skate-skiing as much as possible. We leave Thursday for the Birkebeiner, and hopefully will reap the benefits of all this training. If you’ve been following along at home, you may remember that my plan was to ski the entire 51K Birkie race this year, on classic skis. For reasons of weather, wax, and gear, too mundane to explain, I have skied classic-style only twice this season, while I’ve been skating almost every weekend since November. A few months ago, I could barely go for 10 minutes without gasping and dry-heaving, but I’ve now skated 20K or so twice in the past few weeks, once in bitterly cold conditions for which I had the entirely wrong wax. And so, come Saturday, I will be attempting to skate the 23K Kortelopet race, the same one I classic-skied last year. This feels like the right challenge for me, for this year, and I’m very excited about it. It also means that the Freiburger clan will not have to sit around waiting for me to finish the full Birkie, since they are all skiing the Korte and I would almost surely be finishing at least 4 hours behind Steve’s Birkie time.

Speaking of cross-country skiing, did any of you see the men's 4x10K relay last weekend? Where the Italian skaters crushed the field and snagged the gold on their home turf? Just, wow! Very inspiring and intimidating, and extra fun to watch now that I understand the sport a little bit. On the other hand, curling? I watched for a good 15 minutes the other day, and I still have no idea what's going on. It seemed to have some resemblance to a retirement-home shuffleboard game, only slower-paced.

In addition to the exciting physical challenge ahead of me, this weekend’s Wisconsin trip offers a special post-race treat: fried cheese curds. Perhaps not the most cardio-conscious foodstuff, but well worth skiing 23 kilometers for!

January 21, 2006

Memory Lane.

Now that my books are unboxed and shelved, the house feels more like home. I am a (slowly) recovering packrat in general, and particularly with respect to books. I knew I had a lot of books, but until now, I don’t think I’d quite acknowledged the extent of my hoarding habit. I had a few things dating back to high school, and virtually my entire college and law-school courseloads, all packed into boxes that have traveled with me cross-country and even over the Atlantic, lo these many years.

Taking them out, dusting them off, trying to decide whether to keep or eliminate them, I was flooded with memories. I filled almost a full shelf with French plays, representing a year-long course in which I found a life-long friend and cultivated a great love for Molière. I’d like to read these again, because they’re wonderful reads and because my French could use a brush-up. I'm also keeping all the human rights and geography books, because they and the classes for which I bought them played a significant role in my decision to go to law school (at the time, I intended to become an international environmental and/or human rights lawyer). Many of my beloved anthropology books are staying, too. They played a huge part in my then-budding travel obsession and helped me go out into the world with an open-minded and culturally sensitive approach.

On the other hand, I'm getting rid of more than half of my international economics and politics books, mostly because the international order has moved so far away from what it was in the early 1990s. I've shelved, and hope to reread, some of those, however. Like Looking Backward, and The Rise and Fall of the Great Powers.

I found (and am not keeping) a grammar book from the Russian class I took from a German professor in France. I didn’t learn a shred of Russian in that class - and forgot most of the two-years' worth I'd already learned - because the professor always spoke French with a German accent. Still, I met some of my closest French friends in that ridiculous class.

My law books still had the silly tape-flag tabs I plastered them with before exams, a system that was useful only for forcing me to work my way back through the casebooks and to triple-check my outlines. I'll keep them, for now. A lighter memento of my law school years was the complete Tales of the City series, by Armistead Maupin, and a big book of P.D. Wodehouse stories. Early in my first year, I mentioned to the professor who would become my mentor and research supervisor that I sorely missed having time for non-law reading. He suggested short stories, which turned out to be the perfect solution.

My favorite box was the one crammed full of stuff from my childhood bedroom, which I must have packed up in the mid-90s when my father took over my room as his home office (he left the James Dean poster on the ceiling and still has my blue-flowered wallpaper). In addition to my degree from the University of Strasbourg and my National Merit Scholar certificate, I found a Certificate of Award from Foothill Elementary School, honoring me as the Best Creative Writer in 1980. If I recall correctly, this award was based on a poem for which I also won a citywide writing award, and which my mother probably has tucked away in my baby book!

In the same box were several mounted photographs I’d taken as a high school sophomore. I loved my photography class and was convinced that I had Vision. Alas, I was a bit daunted by the workings of my father’s manual SLR camera and never quite launched my brilliant career as a photojournalist. I like these photos, though. They are black-and-white and a little bit artsy, and I think I’ll frame them and hang them in my office at home.

In addition to my own photos, there’s one my friend Lys (from whom I drifted away when she turned into a Marley-obsessed pothead) took of me. I don’t remember whether this was pre-mohawk or just after I’d regrown my hair, but it definitely reflects my early punker days. I believe the focus of the photo was my hearing aid, because that fit into whatever assignment Lys was completing. Somewhere in my parents’ house, I think I have another version that my friend used for her pastel-on-photo assignment. The colors she added were pretty consistent with what was actually in my hair at the time!

Last but not least were my high school yearbooks. My senior picture shows me in a modest blue button-down shirt, with neat chin-length hair and a nice big smile. Junior year is forgettable. But in the 1986 Odaroloc, there I am in all my mohawked glory. My class picture was pre-mohawk, but my outfit of paisley blouse under a peach Forenza v-neck sweater, enormous earrings, rhinestone neck brooch, and an armful of black rubber O-ring bracelets looks like something Mollie Ringwald might have worn in Pretty in Pink. In the front section of the book, though, is the million-dollar photo. Me, on Halloween, dressed in black, and having a lovely spider web painted on the shaved side of my head by an Art Club student. That night I was a vampire, wearing this fantastic long black cape that my (extremely cool) mommy made me for the occasion.

I fully intended to share these photos with you, but I can’t seem to make the scanner work right now. If Steve can get it all hooked up, I’ll update with pictures, promise.

November 15, 2005

Cool.

At the end of our dinner party this weekend, Steve and I both felt a bit deflated. The food turned out beautifully (my pie crust, normally one of my secret baking weapons, was oddly stretchy in the making but turned out fine, and Ina Garten's recipes worked their usual magic). The wine flowed freely, and for the most part, so did the conversation. We were playing host to dear, close, longtime friends. Yet somehow, when it was over, we each acknowledged that we hadn't really enjoyed ourselves.

As Steve put it, he didn't feel cool enough to be at the table. I had felt the same way, but hadn't been able to label the disconcerting sensation until he did it for me. When we tried to process the feeling, we both found it difficult to describe and to identify specific moments during the evening that had engendered it. But it was there, and we both felt it, and it made us sad.

I don't think either of us was upset about not being cool. We like each other and ourselves, and "cool" seems to take more time, effort, money, and cool detachment  than we can muster. Rather, for me, at least, the sadness was twofold. First, I was sad that my dinner party never quite filled our little dining room with the warm glow of full bellies and easy conversation. And second, I was sad that both Steve and I felt so much distance and (I want to say disdain, but that's not quite right) from such beloved friends. 

I'm still mulling over the experience. I hesitated to write about it, because I've talked to all these friends since (not about our feelings of marginalization, but simply in the normal course of things) and our relationships seem fine, normal, and unaffected. I love all of these friends and would hate for them to read this and think that they'd hurt or offended us somehow. Yet I'm still carrying around some unresolved angst about the evening, and I need to plod through it in print to truly process it.

The feeling of being not-cool was not rooted in cars or clothes or jobs or any such trappings of young professional status. No, it was far more subtle, a heightened and mostly intangible awareness of being of "out of it" that I associate with the awkward insecurity of my younger years. At times during the evening, I felt that I was ridiculously uncool to want or care about something or other, and at other moments, I felt like a huge dork for not caring or knowing about whatever it was we were discussing.

Mostly, I continue to wonder, what does it mean, at this age and life-stage, to be "cool"? Do you know? Are you cool? Why (or why not)?

October 07, 2005

A request for assistance in regaining my blogger's stride.

I think I’m really "back" now. Though work is incredibly busy and I’ll be cranking out one brief after another for months to come, the conclusion of The Wedding Season has freed vast amounts of time and brain space, some of which may now be devoted to blogging.

But I’m out of practice, and unsure whether anyone’s still reading after my long hiatus.

May I be a lazy blogger, then, and ask you to tell me what you’d like me to write about? Here’s an incentive: Once I get five requests, I’ll post the first installment of the honeymoon photos for your viewing pleasure!

P.S.: I'm also curious to know who's out there now, so if you wouldn't mind introducing yourself by comment or e-mail, and perhaps letting me know how you got here, I'd be very appreciative.

September 30, 2005

Transition.

We left on a 90-degree day in late summer, flying away into clear blue skies and bright sunshine. We returned to an autumn chill, with clouds and drizzle that have given way to crisp fall days and cool clear nights. When we departed, our trees were bursting with leaves and our newly sprinkler-equipped lawn was bordering on lushness. We returned to find our yard blanketed with golden leaf-fall. On our wedding night, the sky was light until well after the cocktail hour had ended, but now I wake to blackness and it is nearly dark by the time I get home from work.

It seems the season shifted during our trip, providing tangible benchmarks for our own transition from fiances to spouses.

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